WHAT TO DO WHEN LIFE THROWS DEATH YOUR WAY
As some of you probably know in June both of my grandparents passed one right after the other. I know that isn't the situation for most people, and if it is I'm sorry your on the same shitty boat as me! When I lost my grandparents I lost everything else too. I lost money, family, friends, literally lost my dog (he ran away), confidence, and mental health. I've learned quite a few things since and I would just like to share them so if you're going through the same things, maybe just maybe I can help.
1 - Let Yourself Grieve
This is the first and most important step. If you skip this you will end up bottling up all your emotions and they will come pouring out in other aspects of your life. For example, when I lost my grandma I kinda shook it off and kept looking for my lost dog. I just focused on finding my dog and I didn't give myself time to grieve. When I would be out looking for Bear with Efren, I would snap at him for literally the smallest things, I just had so many pent up emotions I was taking them out in a bad way. Just let yourself be sad, it will help in the long run.
2 - Take A Shower
Take a shower or a bath, this helps you relax and lets your mind wander. Your thoughts might get dark, but that's expected in these tragic events. Allow yourself to think because you might not have been able to do it correctly before. This always helped me realize my grandparents aren't suffering anymore and they are free. That thought always makes me feel better, and I know it might still seem like its too soon (it always will) but I wholeheartedly believe that everything happens for a reason. You will grow from this and you will be a better person because of it.
3 - Meditate/Pray
I have just recently discovered my faith so I'm not suggesting go out and find god if you believe great. If you don't believe that's great, too. Either way, this still goes along way. Your mind is going to be at war with itself, you will find yourself thinking negative thoughts. When you meditate or pray you to find your mind at ease and even if its for two minutes, that's two minutes of not being at war with yourself. That's two minutes today and 10 tomorrow. That's the whole thing about grief, you have to take it one day at a time.
4 - Find Something You Love To Do/Get Back Into Something You Love
I realized when my grandparents passed how much I missed working on The Family Behive. I missed finding products, missed writing, and missed creating content. I almost completely forgot about my goals and dreams because I got so tangled up in life, and now that I'm back to it I feel so good! I feel on top of the world, yeah I have past trauma and ill never get over my grandparents. But now I can move forward with them on this new and exciting journey and I can't wait to make them proud of everything that this has taught me. They didn't leave us broken. They left us with some glue and paint, and now I'm rebuilding myself better.